Wednesday, March 22, 2006

When friendship hurts

I still remember those days when I and Stan were inseparable. We used to spend countless hours together. Until one day when I met with a serious accident. That accident was a turning point in my life. I do not remember every detail of how the accident actually happened, but all I remember is that I was severely injured. Doctors had advised me to take rest for three months. Just the thought of staying home, doing absolutely nothing scared me! But I had no other choice; I could not walk due to a major leg injury that came as compliment along with the accident. For the first two weeks I was enjoying the attention I was getting from my family and friends. But, little did I know that my friends began to look at me as a pain. Everyday Stan would call me and learn about my days stretch.

Three weeks passed with this same routine. He told me that he was feeling very lonely at college without me. And one day he called me and said he was invited to a party by some senior college mates. He asked me if whether he should make it to the party. I told he should definitely go because chances such as this do not come often.
Getting invited to a senior college party was a huge deal. So he went and had fun, he called me the following day and told me every detail of the party. For the next couple of days I did not receive any phone calls from him. I tried calling him; there was no reply on the other end. Finally, Stan called a week later! He had a few excuses. I was just too stupefied to believe that he was not able to find a single minute to make a call to find out if I am doing well. That night I called him again and I told him how I felt. Stan told me he had to expand his social circle. He did not care about me anymore; he had drifted far away from me. I did not even in my dream expect this from Stan. A friend whom I trusted the most hurt me like this. It was the fourth week; I went to see the doctor. The doctor said I would recuperate in two weeks. I called Stan and informed him about my fast recovery. He wasn’t as excited as I though he would be.


Two weeks passed by and I had completely recovered. The first day back to college after the accident, I searched for Stan. He was nowhere to be found, other friends told me he hung out at the college dorm with his new friends. That evening I saw him in my computer science lecture, he ignored me. At that moment I realized he was not the same Stan anymore. This experience changed my view of friendship. I learned that “Never make someone your everything because when they are gone, you have nothing”. My life did not end there; I have learned to accept reality.

P.S.this is just an imagination..so yaarum yen mella paava padda vendam..:P

19 comments:

ada-paavi!!!! said...

well the last line was poiganat, well written nalla irukku,

idu oru siriya tamil cinema range-ku irukku, namba ooru kaathal kathai ;)

brute said...

hey good post buddy

Drops of Ocean said...

I guess whatever you said is fairly true...very well written!

kuttichuvaru said...

ennamo po... serious post ellam vera ezhuthara!!

but, very neatly written!! Keep it up!!

neighbour said...

Change is inevitable.. we have to accpet changes in our life.. and FYI nothing is permenant in life..

enaku pudikalai un post ... un kooda dooo pooo... passanga maatumaaa eppadi friendshipa break pannuraanga ponnuga illaiyaaaa...

Kavitha Jay said...

@ rads-yea..i have felt something similar pa...its so hard to forget ur close friends....thats how i felt when i left india and came here...didnt even talk to anyone for months..now got used to it..

@ada-paavi- thanks pa...tamil cinema vaa...nan idhula punch dialogues ..romance..andha maari items e podalaye..apparam eppdi tamil cinema aaghum..:)

@brute- thanks avinash;)

@sindhu-:)))..dank u..

@kuttichuvaru- need changes in life kanna..romantic stories ezhudi romba bore adichiduchi..

@imsaimannan- dai un peru enna da..apparam nan unna imsai ne kupiduven..serious post aa..adhu vandhu..chumma dhan..oru change k....btw danks for ur sweet compliments..;)

@neighbour- correct da..but u dont expect ur close friend to change like this suddenly....even tho everyone knows people change..it would be hard for everyone to digest things like this...hmm..yea..i didnt mean just guys pa..chumma just generalized it...

@madsies-hey..nan enna type panradhu ne theriyala...u just told what i had in mind..:))..i dont expect anything from anyone too..no matter how close they r..so when things dont happen the way they used be..i dont feel that bad..:))

logic said...

That was good Kavitha.

"had to expand his social circle"
and ppl go crazy to do this right.

Friedship nowadays is like buying mobile phones...
If you are outdated ur out of the game.

This post of urs clearly justifies these lines...

"Dont tell me sky's the limit,der r footprints in the moon"

Rational.

Anonymous said...

Hey Kavi,

“Never make someone your everything because when they are gone, you have nothing”...this line is very true.Unakku mattum yengendhu di ipdi yellam idea varuthu??yengalukkum konjam sollen!!!

Aana ni itha explain pannirukka context is not appropriate...namma friendsukku yethavathu accident na namakku avangamela sympathy jasthi aagum ma...and we tend to help them more...and not shun them off...

My friend was once undergoing an operation and we were taking care of him during those days in the hospital...once he was back we helped him with notes and stuff...Only in his absense we realized how bad our lives can be without him...

Aana antha friend ni ah iruntha, "happada" nu appete ayirpen ;-)...jus kidding...

But anyways, very neatly written...Keep up ur god work...

Anand said...

Hey,
Its sad that your best friend changed-but hey not every person is the same!
My best friend has been with me for years and I know he will always be with me no matter what!
Dont lose hope on friendship coz of one incident-am sure u'll find a grt friend soon who will be with you whenever u need him/her!

Ramesh said...

mystery, life-layae first time urupaadiyaa oru blog pottu irukkae pola irukku.. very nice one seriously.. but imagination-nu sollitiyae.. doesnt look like when u read it..

kaushik said...

"Never make someone your everything because when they are gone, you have nothing”. My life did not end there; I have learned to accept reality."

very well said!
and so very true!
but accepting the reality and living with it is two really different things!

Kavitha Jay said...

@ logic-appa..mudhal vaati paarati irruka..:P....what u said is very true friendship has no meaning these days..chumma theva na than call panuvanga...but among them also they r some ppl who r very loyal and true...

@vicky- dai idea la thana varanum...solli vara koodatha..:))...yea even i would do the same thing if one of my friends had met with an accident..but we should know that..not everyone r like us..ppl r very different..some may be friends with u for ur money while others for ur their needs...but friends who dont expect anything from u..r ur true friends..enna nan sollradhu...:)

@anand- hey..this is just an imganination...thank god none of my friends r like that...dont worry..i have some really good friends..;)

@ramesh- ada paavi...y do u want to make my life miserable..romba allayadha...my friends r not like this..:P....

@kaushik- thanks yaar...hmm..how r they different..u mean u say its hard to live with reality or is it hard the accept the reality...?

ashok said...

//P.S.this is just an imagination..so yaarum yen mella paava padda vendam///

epadi pootu thapichitiyae...

kaushik said...

i mean, u may accept that ur best friend is not your 'best' friend anymore, but then i dont think you can replace that person! that is not easy!!!
i hope i clarified myslef

Kavitha Jay said...

@vanathi- thanks for visiting..and dank u for ur comments..;)

@ashok- ada pavingala...illa na mattum enna pa solli irrupa...console panni irrupaga polla irruku:P

@ammu-haha..eppdi namma friendship kadha..lol..danks da

@kaushik-yea thats very true da..u cant replace ur close friend..everyone is different in their own ways..

brute said...

friend is a friend who is like a friend who likes to be ur friend but is also friend of ur friend so ultimately friend is a friend of ur friend also.......... hehehe :P

logic said...
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sanjayan said...

Being a friendly guy, i was very eager reading the title. And i can feel the pain when friendship hurts. I was toched by the way you took the topic and finally you gave me a cut when you said that it was all imagination. This is a good way of narrating, could be thought of a screenplay for a movie. The best part is when you take the readers for a ride with surprises...

sanjayan said...

Being a friendly guy, i was very eager reading the title. And i can feel the pain when friendship hurts. I was toched by the way you took the topic and finally you gave me a cut when you said that it was all imagination. This is a good way of narrating, could be thought of a screenplay for a movie. The best part is when you take the readers for a ride with surprises...