Sometimes I wonder to myself how pathetic my life has become.
This is not a business it’s my life. And no matter how hard I shout from here no one is here to hear that. Yes I am talking about my marriage. And NO… I am not got getting married any time soon :)
I was talking to my uncle today and as usual he brought the topic about my marriage. He told me that he has seen couple of guys and the next time I go to India select one of them and see if I get along with them.
So on what basis do I select this guy?
Education?
Character?
Family?
Or how much he loves me?
And how would I know who that guy is?
She builds this sand castle with perfection only to find out that waves have crushed it the next day. This is every girls dream. To find a guy who loves her more than anything else in his world.
I would rather let him choose me and this is the point where I leave it to fate. Destiny is something we choose to go after.... Fate is something that happens to us, and seemingly takes away our choices, but in fact actually leads us back towards the choice of Destiny we already made before we were born.
So i wait for who- ever- you- are to knock my door.
~Every Indian girls fate~
9 comments:
Onnum solradhuku illa! :) All the best!
I can very well understand wat u r goin thru right now da...
Its hard on indian girls...and more wen u think of us southies...so many
traditions, culture and things...
falling in love and finding the right person almost ends like a dream...
the same thing happens to me wen my parents gimme some pics and ask me to choose...
wat am I doin? some shopping? huh.
and then i need to talk to him for sometime...that sometime is just a week or so...
how can i judge him in such a short time...
they say u have to adjust...but seeing so many things that happen on this earth, i just
cant get to start liking a guy after I choose him as my life partner..
it shud be the other way around...
I know its the same for the guy, but atleast he is not gonna leave his home for 25+ years and come to stay in a stranger's place..is he? and the burden is just on the girl..ONLY the girl...
and after a certain point of time, i feel that all around me except me wants me to get married.
I can understand the problems my parents go thru wading away qstns from relatives and frds
askign abt "when are u getting ur daughter married"
Why dun they just leav this topic...@%$(@$@*$
Gosh..If only life was more peaceful for us, Girls!!!
It is indeed difficult. And i equate arranged marriage to more like "Kullukkal murayil thaerndhu edukka patta adhirstasaali" types. Desi guys or girls - we actually dont have a choice.
@dreamzz- :) thank u
@shiv-yea i understand da..u must be going through the same torture..
how the hell can we look at some random pics n decide which one is the right one?
its so frustrating when i think about it...seri vidu enna panna mudiyum..
n coming to adjusting...adjust panni panni vaazhkaye mudinjidum...
hmm lets hope for the best :D
@arun sunder-hmm aama.ur right...have no choice but to say yes.
deep issue girl...but its the same for the Indian guys I guess....well the very few of them in the same predicament...like ME! :P
ok jokes aside, what you say is true. How long do we have to shout to say that this matchmaking parade is wrong? it just doesnt work...unless we find true love. thats the end of it. if we cant find true love, then there is no marriage. i dont believe in getting married and falling in love. thats such a hype.
u stay tight...dont let the world sway you out of ur elements. hugs.
Appo Suryaa va kai vitittiyaa??? :D
The guy that I end up with MUST (since it's expected) be:
A malayalee who speaks malayalam who is an ORTHODOX Christian who was born and brought up in India. He must be well educated and is well off.
The above is what my parents expect.
What I expect:
Someone who is willing to be committed to me forever and ever. Someone who loves me.
People CAN see the differences between the two expectations, right?
As I was in church today, I was pondering over a thought: Should I become a nun? :D
we do get to choose
I did say no (or didnot say anything to them)to few proposals after meeting them...
b4 i met my mr right or so i think
ha ha
hey for us girls intution works
dont worry too much
i would ve left it to fate, destiny or whtever u can call it :D but realised.. its too precious to do so, hence take it in ur hands..
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