You go to a party and expect the girl to shake her hips and dance for the maniac songs playing…you don’t mind if she takes one or two puffs…drinking is absolutely no problem in fact you cheer them up saying ” wow this is the first time I have seen a girl chug down a whole beer bottle”
So what happens when its time for marriage?
Virgin -of course
Boyfriends- No No
Religious-yes
Smoking – No way
Drinking- please leave my house
If you don’t do certain things and expect the same with your better half that’s understandable…
But if that’s not the case…shove it
Bunch of hypocrites
18 comments:
You rock lady!!!
you stole the words out of my mouth.. Everytime I think about this, I want to thrash the entire mankind..
hahhaha..gal! am off to this post.. :P
true...it is hypocrisy when such guys do this. When i read the topic of your post "Why are Indian men so conservative?", I was expecting something on the conservativeness of "Indian men" and a doubt from your side as to what is the reason behind this...but the end was "If you to don’t do certain things and expect the same with your better half that’s understandable..." which means u do understand the conservativeness of the conservative Indian men (phew!) and then "But if that’s not the case...shove it"...the last one, as u already pointed out, is not conservativeness, but hypocrisy :)
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Simply True..Nothing else one can comment
TC
CU
machi :) exactly my thots...
ithu vanthu namba ooru pasangaluke irukure oru viyathi...
kadhal kottai la karan solluvanle... namma sight adikure ponnuinga ellathaiyum kamikanum.. namba katika pora ponnuinga mahalakshmi a irukanum nu.
A$$ho**
Hello,
I wish to say something on this post,though not a good writer.
Nor a well learned man,Me just a small man in this small world doin some small work.
But still,ur post needs some real thing to go with.
As a read it is very articulative and i guess i have something to share on this.
The first part of shaking a leg i think u still find married women shaking a leg or two once in a while either in the arms of their husbands or their in one of those many family parties.
"you don’t mind if she takes one or two puffs…drinking is absolutely no problem in fact you cheer them up saying ” wow this is the first time I have seen a girl chug down a whole beer bottle”",
Now the above sentence needs a bit of thinking cause when u have man who says this to or thinks like this towards his female interest then the object in mind is very clearly known, it is just to take a women to bed.
But when i as a man am looking to marry its not tht i search for somebody perfect, it is just tht since we are all slaves of this society we need certain qualities for a woman,
I am not against women smoking or drinking nor i am with them too.
In my own eyes i can smoke i can drink but a woman cant, because we consider women as Pure, caring, loving and a smoking drinking woman would be very bad to visualise as the a women with the above said qualities.
Men especiallz Indian men are pretty close to their mothers.
They have grown up seeing their mother hold the house together, sacrifice her life for the happiness of her family and this is the beauty of India.
I know this aint even a niche nearer to the answer but this is good enough for a thought towards it i guess...!
i think the virgnity issue is long gone from the minds of the indian men of the new and young india,but if it still exists and if u have come across,
the reason is the same as to why a married woman would get hyper when she knows her husband is sleeping with another woman.
Women are hyper sensitive.For men an affair means just the physical attraction.
But when the same happens for a woman it is not just tht,it goes beoynd it.
Their is an emotional bonding on the lower layer.this layer makes it close to impossible to genreate a vibrant aura around the new relation.
Again i know this is not the perfect answer but in m eyes this is the truth..
u once asked me how come i never commented u but had u on my blogroll,
now u have a comment from me..
--Shyam
ooh ooh... B'day babe...ene ipdi oru post.... controversial matter a potuta... not sure what trigered u off... yep i agree w/ u on these...but... few q's..
why not just "Men" instead of indian men? ... Guess even other men behave the same way but in a different level....
and reg the marriage part..well...intha conditions la applicable to both genders thaaane?
I dont think a girl wud compromise on all those parameters b4 wed..
and ellavanum apdi ille ma...there r few expections...la ;) ithellam panna koodathunu thadukra "men" ofcrse indian men um irukaanga ma... ;)
Raz akka...ungalukkum serthu thaan sollirukean...
@daklaz: ithu ellam chumma... nan othuka maten
@confused- Go ahead..we both can thrash the entire mankind..;)
@brute- bye bye..lol
@raj- grr..nee enna than solla vara...u got my point my illa?
indian men are hypocrites..period
@hariharan-hey welcome..:D..do visit again..
@CU-wow..someone finally agreed with me..proud of u..:P
@raz- dont even get me started da...these things piss me off so much..just cuz we depend on them for certain things...doesnt mean we should keep our mouths shut for everything... der is a limit to everything..
@dakaltiz-
no da..i have never seen a "white" guy demand that his wife should not drink and smoke..unless he doesnt do those things...
ofcourse da..there r some indian men who dont smoke..and will not let others smoke too...
but wat about those idiots who do such things..and expect others not to...
HYPOCRITES..lol
Agree completely with Kavitha. We Indian Men ARE hypocrites..no doubts about it. And no justification is possible. Hopefully things change as we open up more to the new world and come out of the cocoon that we are living in.
I am a man and it still pisses me off seeing how chauvinistic men are! I am a staunch feminist and believe that girls also have their own ways of looking at world.
I despise men who say one thing and do the opposite. I have seen many friends of mine still demanding dowry (yes....even in this new age!)..just because he happens to work for some shitty software company (nope....I have nothing against software companies..please).
@anonymous...cut the crap of "Women are pure, caring, sacrificial lambs" etc etc. The pureness of a woman and other qualities have absolutely nothing to do with whether they shake their hips or legs, whether they drink or smoke. In your logic, it would mean that men are impure, uncaring and selfish!
Sorry Kavi for ranting..but this is one thing I am a staunch supporter of. Hypocrite men are simply NO NO in this age. And girls better stay away from such brutes!
hey kavi... athaan sonnen la they expect at a different level...which need not be smokin or drinikin ;)
n e ways kavs..naa onnum pesa mudiyathu nu nenaikren....
...pasanga avlo damage panni vachrukaanunga ;) ... i've seen many ppl who do all stuff n wen it comes to wedding.. get settled as a family peria buddhar maathri pesuvaanga...:)
inna koduma sir idhu?
nee solradhuliyam nyayam irukku. :)
Hi Kavi,
I agree most of the men are like that,but not everyone....
tc.
Hi Kavitha (i hope this is ur real name).
A very short, cute and agreeable post. I agree with you whatever you have said BUT a small change.
Of course we do think the majority is on the MALE gender but don't you agree with me if i say there are quite a few in FEMALE as well?
Irrespective of the gender who does, they should honestly look within and get out of it! - this is what i feel.
I remember in the movie "Kaadhal Kottai', Karan says a dialogue something similar to this post!
Hats off!
My best wishes for this post be a triggering factor for atleast a few who falls in that category!
Cheers,
Raghavan alias Saravanan M.
hey first and foremost sorry kavitha for not commenting on this post earlier..coz i didnt visit ur blog during this period i guess...and naan paarthathu ur next post, i.e the diwali wishes one...ippathan padikkiraen
you have a point in ur post... but dont u think, it is not just the males but in general everyone who hold a different rule for themselves and something altogether for ppl around them..... u are very right when u label them as hypocrites :)
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